FREE ESSAY ON DATING ANXIETY

DATING ANXIETY

Dating Anxiety
Have you ever been really stressed about something? Think of the time when you have been
the most stressed out. Multiply that to the 10th power and you have me before a date. It
seems to me dating and stress are like salt and pepper; you almost never have one without
the other. Endless anticipations flood your mind, making it almost impossible to keep a
continuous train of thought. The worst thing about dating is that you get seriously
stressed out for one lousy night. It's enough to turn a sane mind into a basket case. So
much energy is put into preparing for a night that ends up being pretty lame. One thing
is for sure; dating is not worth the stress it brings. Here are some examples of typical
stresses you are faced with when you go out on a date.
First of firsts, what to wear. You keep asking yourself, "Does this make me look fat? Is
this color all wrong? Where is the skirt I was going to wear?" Nothing is clean. Nothing
looks right. You have ten minutes until you need to be ready to go and you're running
around in your underwear like a chicken with its head cut off. Aaaah! Finally you give up
and put on your favorite pair of bedraggled jeans and a solid color T-shirt. Now that
you're dressed you start to calm down, only to turn your thoughts to the next major
stress of the evening, the stress on your wallet.
You're more broke than humpty dumpty. The date was a mutual proposal, so it would be
obnoxiously rude to leave the entire tab for the night up to your date. Frantic, you
start searching your room for lost cash and loose change. After searching through all
your pockets you realize you have no other choice but to borrow money from your roommate
who is still holding a grudge about the five bucks you borrowed last week and have yet to
pay back. Tension is filling the house so you decide to wait outside.
While waiting for your date you get ambushed by mosquitoes. Now your arms are covered in
itchy red bumps that will be nagging at you the entire evening. By the time your date
finally arrives, your hair has turned into a frizzy rat's nest from waiting in the
humidity, not to mention you are in the worst mood possible. You get in the car trying to
fake a genuine smile and just when you start to chill out and relax the next issue is
faced: where to go.
Of course your date leaves this crucial decision entirely up to you. After thinking
through all of the spots you like to go to, you pick one that seems to suit you both.
Unfortunately, you picked the place where your date's ex-girlfriend likes to go. So you
spend the whole evening trying to spark a good conversation as your date jealously
eyeballs all the guys his ex is flirting with. After you realize the night is not going
to get any better, you get the tab and ask your date for a ride home. Just when you think
it's over and you're in the clear, you arrive at the most awkward situation of the
evening: saying goodnight.
Tradition says that there must be a kiss before the night is officially over, but there
is absolutely no physical attraction between you and Mr. "I can't get over my ex." But
rules are rules, so through gritted teeth you survive the goodnight kiss. Mentally
exhausted, you hurl yourself onto your bed and attempt to clear your mind of such an
unpleasant evening. Despite the tension in your neck that you can't get rid of, you shut
your eyes and drift into the worst sleep you have ever had.
Although dating is not always such a bad experience, you can't honestly say that it can
be completely stress free. I believe that when two people of the opposite sex meet on an
individual basis there is something in our bodies that make our hearts pump faster and
our muscles get tense. This ultimately leads to some form of stress. Although dating is
one of life's necessities it seems more trouble than it is worth.